Alpha Males

I have been reading a lot regarding much in the world of "Alpha Males" lately.

In dicussions with female friends, I have ascertained that the majority of them and myself have realized that the idea of the Alpha Males seems to be going out the window as of late.

The Alpha Male would be described as strong, powerful men - the kind you see in power-suits, walking to work with a BlackBerry glued to their ear. The kind of man who is not afraid to make the first move. He knows what he wants and he gets it. Every. Time.

Why is it then that every guy I've ever dated/hooked up with, has NOT made the first move? That's right - Every. Guy.

And I know I'm not the only one. Girlfriends have been telling me this for ages - guys do not make the first move.

You could argue that it's endearing. It's nice that these guys are trying to be gentlemen. Maybe they're just dense, and don't realize that it's okay to make a move unless you explicitly tell them. But I'm also one to enjoy when a guy makes the first move, even though I haven't had many chances to experience it. Because guys just don't.

I can be shy too, especially because guys can be tricky, and you never really do know if someone is interested unless they tell you, or drop two tonne hints. But I'm also one who doesn't beat around the bush. I'm the type of person who will give every hint in my arsenal, but eventually just come out and ask, Are you ever going to make a move?

It usually takes some courage on my part to do that (liquid, medicinal, or the old fashioned cowardly lion kind). If I can do it, why can't men? They're supposed to be stronger of the species (physically at least - I'm not convinced on mentally).

Maybe they're shy. Maybe they're immature. Maybe it's an issue of self-confidence.

Where have all the Alpha Men gone?